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Why Do The Same Issues Keep Coming Up? | BABH S2Ep137

season 2 Jul 19, 2022

EPISODE 137: Why Do The Same Issues Keep Coming Up?

Have you ever found yourself doing a ton of work on some core issue and feeling like you’d nailed it…. Only for it to come back again?

And have you found yourself saying “I thought I’d dealt with this shit!?”

Then you wonder if you maybe missed something, you didn’t quite get to the core of it, maybe you keep sabotaging yourself for some inexplicable reason… or perhaps even that you’re fundamentally broken?

You speak with your well meaning spiritual and personal development friends only to have them collude in that self blame - pointing with that judgement dressed as kind wisdom to your failure and the inadequacy of your process work…

Oh. My F-ing. God!

This is something that is guaranteed to get me on my rant box…

And it came up in a recent group call… twice… so I figured it’s in the ethers for a lot of you right now.

So in today’s episode I thought I’d share those conversations from the call and hope, with all my heart, that my perspective on this topic offers an alternative and, in my opinion, more useful and human approach to this situation.

Plus, as part of these conversations, you’ll get a demo of NPA in action using one of my favourite NPA approaches to help you let in whatever characteristics you see in others and feel you lack.

How cool is that in the middle of this heatwave in the UK?

So click that play button and let’s dive in.

Watch this episode on YouTube HERE

Quick Links from this episode:


Time Stamps:

[0:00] On the Be A Brilliant Human Show today
[2:30] Welcome and context
[3:53] Enneagram Number 5
[5:33] Will fear always be here?
[8:25] A new relationship with fear
[11:03] The NPA Process demo
[13:19] Context for part 2
[15:34] The Harmony Equation
[17:11] I thought I’d dealt with this?
[14:42] The myth that you can get rid of stuff
[20:05] The tree rings analogy for personalities
[22:00] Enneagram Number 9
[23:49] The pattern of pushing people away
[25:00] Become the master of your patterns (make them ‘your bitch’)
[29:13] Outro


Episode 135 Another Non-Personal dialogue; this time on the topic of KarmaLISTEN HERE

Episode 60 This episode goes deeper on turning around your relationship to those recurring issues: LISTEN HERE

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