Today we’re delving into the dark night of the soul
Chances are, like me, you have a deep Soul prayer for growth.
There’s a saying: “Be careful what you wish for”… but you knew that right?
The life of a growth seeking being is not about maintaining stability. It’s not about settling for ‘normal’. It’s rarely about security, striving for or subscribing to the known.
While these things are welcomed as passing phases, growth requires chaos, destruction, dissolving, profound not-knowing.
Be under no illusion, that looking for growth will take you to your edges. After all, it’s only by going beyond your edges that you enter new territory.
Growth, of course, happens all the time. But sometimes a deep Soul prayer will take you into a deep dark night, and I have found that there are specific qualities in that process which I would like to share with you today.
Click that play button and enjoy!
The Dark Night can be a tough time, full of confusion and lostness. You are meeting a fundamental aspect of your shadow, which ultimately grows you into something much greater.
I hope by laying out this map of the journey it helps you recognise if you (or someone you love) are in the process of the Dark Night of the Soul and you can move through it as resistance free as possible:
STAGE 1: A DEEP BREATH IN
A spiritual high. A sense of completion.
STAGE 2: THE FALL
The known falls away. Nothing to cling to.
Let go - surrender to the fall - clinging causes friction.
STAGE 3: THE VOID
The deepest darkness. Nothing you can do to fix it.
Experience is the point - get support
STAGE 4: DAWN BREAKS
The illusion collapses, dawn breaks - you might not realise at first
Still exhaustion remains - self care
STAGE 5: REBIRTH
An inner shift happens and your energy returns
Don’t label it, just live it
STAGE 6: UNDERSTANDING
Experience brings understanding, so you can celebrate the process and truly appreciate the purpose.
Don’t rush the lessons!