BAH HUMBUG SYNDROME | Finding Your Happy Christmas | BABH S1Ep11

EPISODE 11: BAH HUMBUG SYNDROME | Finding Your Happy Christmas

Feeling a bit "Bah Humbug" this Christmas?
Or know someone around you who's inclined to go there?

In this episode I'm I'm looking Bah Humbug Syndrome firmly in the eye and exploring:

• What's really going on underneath the hood of a Bah Humbugger?
• What's the cost of being Bah Humbug
• How Bah Humbug Syndrome isn't just for Christmas!
• A route from Bah Humbug to YOUR happy Christmas
• A healing response to your Bah Humbug Buddy

Beyond the Christmas theme, this episode offers some simple yet effective questions and perspectives to take you from misery and reaction to empowerment and freedom... So click that play button and let's get started!

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NOTES

According to Wikipedia:

A humbug is a person or object that behaves in a deceptive or dishonest way

When referring to a person, a humbug means a fraud or impostor, implying an element of unjustified publicity and spectacle.

In modern usage, the word is most associated with the character Ebenezer Scrooge, created by Charles Dickens in his 1843 novella A Christmas Carol. His famous reference to Christmas, "Bah! Humbug!", declaring Christmas to be a fraud.

Bah Humbug: Not Just for Christmas

We can be ‘bah humbug’ about lots of things and events - about our birthday, about love, about children etc

Common Qualities...

• The energy of it is one of distaste and cynicism
• Usually used in situations where there are norms, expectations or rituals 
• The usual justification for the cynicism of bah humbug is that those rituals are twisted, meaningless and empty
• Often it goes further to accuse those who go along with them as gullible fools or superficial saps

The Pain of Bah Humbug

The cost of a bah humbug mindset...

• It's reactive. Remember freedom is not a reaction but a wholehearted choice
• Puts you in victim mode: powerless and avoidant
• Examine the cost for yourself: What's the impact on your mind, emotions, body, behaviour?

Examine the secondary gain - A grumpy identity can give negative pleasure…

Are You Blindly Bah-Humbugging?

What’s the real issue? What is it specifically that’s really bugging you?

Once you've answered these questions, you’re set to actually DO something about it so YOU can have a better experience…

An Alternative To Bah Humbug (Finding Your Happy Christmas)

Remember: “freedom is not a reaction but a wholehearted choice”

Who wants to subscribe to things that don't feel good right? I certainly don’t, and I don't encourage you to…

The thing is HOW DO YOU RESPOND to the pressure - becoming a victim or entertaining the idea you’re powerless is just another form of subscription - you’re still tangled up in the dynamic, the energy

"Fighting the have to’s is believing the have to’s"

In other words, it's giving them power

So the answer is to step into empowerment and freedom…

Ask yourself:

• What ACTUALLY works for you?
• What do you want?
• What does YOUR happy Christmas (or happy version of whatever you’re feeling bah humbug about) look like? Own it!

And if you have resistance come up to those questions ask:

What constrains you?

Fear? Other peoples' opinions? Are you just playing a role and that identity would find it humiliating to ‘hang with the ordinary people’ and just enjoy the experience?

What if Christmas was an invitation to be open hearted and celebrate life itself - and YOU get to decide

1. If you want to do that and
2. How?

A Healing Response To Your Bah Humbug Buddy

If you have someone around you who’s Bah Humbug, it can impact you and it’s natural to want to respond…

The standard response is "C’mon stop being such a miserable bugger"

That rarely works. It's additional pressure and they put their hooves in - after all, they're already reacting to pressure.

My suggestion -

• Set them free
• Ask genuine questions about what they want
• Stay open to them
• Do your thing
• If they try to enlist you, judge your choices or don't respond positively to your genuine offer of love and support - don’t take take it personally (Use The NPA Process)
• Don't have an agenda - that’s just stealth pressure.
• Honour your boundaries - it’s YOUR Christmas (Get on the Boundary Bootcamp waitlist)

ROUND UP

Bah Humbug is normally a reactive and disempowered state - choose you, do what works for you but don't miss the invitation to be happy, just find YOUR version of happy

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