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Revisiting Making The Decision To Let Go (How To Connect with Your Inner Decision Maker) | BABH S2Ep124

season 2 Mar 22, 2022

EPISODE 124: Revisiting Making The Decision To Let Go (How To Connect with Your Inner Decision Maker)

I wonder if there’s something you know you need to let go of; you know it’s not doing you any favours - perhaps you are even aware that all that’s required is that you decide to let go - and yet you don’t.

You try to figure out the underlying causes, do more and more process work, just distract yourself, rationalise it etc etc..

It’s as if, in spite of all you know, landing that decision eludes you…

The pressure builds, the self recriminations build and it just seems to get harder and harder.

In this episode I'm sharing a surprising and simple framework for decision making that lets the decisions flow with grace and ease.

Click that play button and let’s dive in.

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Mixed pressures cause confusion

  • Generally the mind is attempting to take the reins of decision making (but it’s rubbish at it).
    • Generally it spews out all sorts of "shoulds"
    • internally source/externally source
    • dogmatic ideas
    • inner arguments
    • obsesses on consequences
    • usually breeds fear.
    • great at offering completely contradictory advice to you
  • Conflict and tension builds pressure

There’s a deeper place

  • More intuitive -(where you’ll find the decision is clear)
  • Connecting intuitively is NOT helped by pressure
  • It’s an act of:
    • receiving
    • listening
    • stillness
    • silence

A Non-Personal Perspective

"YOU don't make the decision, the decision is there for the taking; it's a matter of aligning with it... Are you willing to receive it; to let it in?"


Suspend disbelief

  • Assume you have an inner decision maker
  • That part of you which already knows the decision that needs to be made
  • In fact - has already made it
  • It can be powerful to personify it he/she

You are the sole authority

  • Tap into the macro/micro
  • No pressure from anyone else - this is yours
  • The decision has already accounted for all factors
  • The trap is to try and grab it, own, it claim it, control it… NO!!
  • The trick is to notice it - become aware of it and spend time with it and let IT”S gravity do the work
  • You’ve been doing everything to avoid it - but it is simply there.

How it works with letting go…

  • Letting go… specifically…
  • So you know there’s something to let go of…
  • You even know the decision has been made - you’re just not connected with it
  • You want that decision to ‘land’ but you can't grab it or force it


  • I’m not asking you to let go!
  • I’m asking you to spend time with him/her…
  • Remember it’s relational 
    • Create the connection, the bond and the ‘happening’.
    • The decision will land through that


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