There’s a lot of human suffering that comes on the back of some skewed ideas in answer to the question “Are we responsible for the emotions of others?”
If we are responsible then that’s a lot of weight to bare; how then do we care for ourselves?
And if we believe we’re not responsible then does that mean we shouldn’t care about what other people feel? And isn’t that cold and heartless?
Entangling the idea of caring and taking responsibility for other people's feelings is where most of this confusion lies.
So today we’re going to explore the topic of responsibility for emotions and look at where care comes into the picture.
I’ve made this episode in the hope that it helps you understand the source of your feelings, the source of their feelings and show you how you can care deeply without taking on the burden of responsibilities that are not yours.
And on the back of that, I’ll also share some tips on how to have empowering communication that demonstrates care and promotes deeper connection, understanding and togetherness (without taking on inappropriate responsibilities).
It’s a jam-packed episode so hit that play button and let’s get into it!
"I'm responsible" vs "Their feelings: Not my problem"
I'm Responsible Model:
Not My Problem Model:
Mapping Where Feelings Come From
HAPPENING > INTERPRETATION/MEANING/STORY > FEELING
HAPPENING: Facial expression
INTERPRETATION: Looking at me funny
MEANING: That means they're judging me
STORY: They think I'm incompetent and they're going to talk about me to X/Y/Z
Using The Map For Internal Checks
Using The Map For Understanding Their Feelings
DISTINCTION: Caring about them and that they are feeling rubbish WAY different to taking responsibility for their emotions
Taking responsibility for any CONTRIBUTION to them having their story:
This approach creates:
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