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Why Nothing Is Personal (And Why We Take Things Personally) | BABH S2Ep144

season 2 Sep 27, 2022

EPISODE 144: Why Nothing Is Personal (And Why We Take Things Personally)

This week I want to share my answer to a very common question about NPA.

The NPA Process offers the perspective that “It’s not personal”.

A not uncommon reaction to that is: “It bloody well is”, or maybe “It feels bloody personal” or some version of that objection.

Normally, a direct experience of the process generates an intuitive understanding of the power of the non-personal perspective.

But the confusions and questions around it do arise and I was reminded of this by a post by one of our practitioners-in-training in the NPA Mastery Facebook group.

She wrote:

“I was having a conversation today with a friend and we did a bit of NPA when she said

‘I really cant get my head around things not being personal, because I believe that I manifest everything good or bad in my life so how can that be non personal.’

Answers on a postcard please 😂 I would love your view on this, and anyone else that wants to chime in.”

My ‘postcard’ came in the form of a FB Live video to the group which I did on the fly while driving home after helping my daughter move house and that’s what I’d like to share with you on the podcast today.

Now before we dive in I wanna let you know it’s rough and ready and the 4G got iffy in places… but I think it’s a good summary and I hope it helps your understanding, maybe intrigues you and perhaps get’s you thinking deeper about the nuances of non-personal awareness.

If you’re new to Non-Personal Awareness and NPA, you can download The NPA Process for free HERE or go to and hit the NPA quick start button at the top of the page.

And if you’re curious about our NPA Mastery, practitioner training programme stay tuned at the end for more info about that.

So enjoy - click the play button and let’s get into it!

Watch this episode on YouTube HERE

Quick Links from this episode:


Time Stamps:

[0:00] On the Be A Brilliant Human Show today
[3:17] The question you've probably asked
[4:29] Bullet point answer breakdown
[5:20] The fundamental non-personal nature of reality
[6:20] The delusional idea that I create my own reality
[9:00] We don't live in individual weather bubbles
[10:15] Making the distinction between fundamentals and mechanisms
[12:30] The absence of control
[13:19] How energy compels form
[15:22] NPA softens the personalisation (where there is suffering)
[16:39] NPA Mastery
[19:54] Outro


Episode 87 Discover why resistance shows up in the healing space (it's not what you think) and the non-personal antidote! LISTEN HERE watch the original FB Live HERE

Episode 61 More NPA magic discussing "The Agenda-less Way": LISTEN HERE

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